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Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship
by: Mira Kirshenbaum |
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Binding: Paperback Dewey Decimal Number: 646.78 EAN: 9780452275355 ISBN: 0452275350 Label: Plume Manufacturer: Plume Number Of Items: 1 Number Of Pages: 304 Publication Date: July 01, 1997 Publisher: Plume Studio: Plume |
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  - Hands down the most helpful book for decidingI re-read this book in whole and in part over the course of deciding whether to divorce my wife. It was by far the most helpful book I read and helped me gain clarity or regain clarity when I got nervous. You should understand this is not a book about how to save your marriage, it is a book for the person contemplating leaving who can not decide. It provides the questions a therapist usually uses when helping a person decide whether they want to end a relationship; so, you need to be honest with yourself. I found it helpful to use post is to tag pages and a pen and paper to take notes on my answers. I have reccommended this book numerous times. Rating: - Must Read if you are "on the fence" in a relationship!I read this book 4 years ago when I was in the final stages of a dying relationship with my husband. I had been "ambivalent"- weighing the reasons to stay and go for at least 3 years. As the author points out, it eats up so much of your energy that you don't have any left for your relationship! I have never had so many "Ah ha!" moments while reading a book - underlined & highlighted something on almost every page. I have recommended this book to so many people since then. If you are stuck - this book, through a very simple & methodolical process and set of questions to ask yourself, really can help you decide & set your future free. Thank you Mira K. - I decided it was "too bad to stay" and have never looked back! Rating: - Awesome Book!Best relationship book I have ever read. I have read all the Mars and Venus books about relationships and this book beats "Men women and relationships" by John Gray. Rating: - Profound ImpactAs an avid reader, I have never before been compelled to search out the author of any book until this one! But after reading this, I immediately called Mira, that night, knowing we could work together to solve the dilemma she described so astutely and that I was living so painfully. Her insights and recommendations are based on research done over many years in an extensive practice. The writing style is kind, straightforward and participative--- and full of Aha's! You are asked to examine your own situation through each section of the book. Mira dissolved my "How can I feel this way?" despair by helping me see how many others were conflicted about the same issues. She gave my struggle legitimacy and credibility and offered answers no one else had. My book is ragged and torn now, but thanks to Mira, my life is on the mend. After many years, I chose to leave. Thank you! Rating: - insightful & easy to readThis book is one of the best relationship advice books I have ever read. Useful not only for people considering leaving, but also for people considering whether or not to make a further commitment. Rather than looking at problems in a relationship by placing them on a scale (these things are good/those are not) and trying to figure out the weight of each positive or negative aspect of your relationship and then figure out what it adds up to, the author instead teaches us to look at problems in a relationship the way a doctor diagnoses an illness. She asks 36 questions with yes/no answers, and explains the long term consequences of a yes or a no. By the time she has gotten to 36, she has covered every aspect of your relationship. The last chapter then covers what to do next & makes further reading recommendations both if the book helped you decide to leave and if it told you to stay. The writing style is witty and engaging. Chapters have titles borrowed from pop culture (ie. "you've got a hold on me" & "it's too late baby"). And every question is followed by real world examples of people (men & women, gay people & straight people, old people and young people, people who have been married for years & people who are just dating) whose answer to that question was pivotal in their relationship. Then she distills the advice into a simple pithy guideline. Even if she tells you what you don't want to hear, her words ring true enough to make you pay attention. Just because the questions have yes/no answers doesn't mean they are simplistic. But it is easy to see how every single question relates to the success of a long term relationship. I highly recommend this book in every way, this is probably the best relationship-advice self-help book that I have ever read. |
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